‘Stretching’
There are many ways to retract the clitoral hood and
spread lubricant. For this exercise, however, we want you to touch your
clitoris using only one type of stroke. Try a short stroke, focusing on the
most sensitive part of your clitoris, wherever this is for you. To discover
which part of your clitoris is the most sensitive, start by stroking all the
different quadrants, one at a time. You can also try a longer stroke, moving
from bottom to top on the left side, and then switch your strokes to the right
side. The object is to experience as much feeling as you can and also to notice
which areas feel best and which kinds of strokes you prefer—light or firm, fast
or slow.
Continue, one stroke at a time, for as long as you
enjoy it. At some point, start stroking yourself without pausing between
strokes. This should get you going a little more intensely. You can always stop
when you want to peak—that is, when you want to allow your level of arousal to
decrease a little so you can take things higher with the next stroke or series
of strokes. But try to be aware of how many strokes you can feel without losing
focus either mentally or physically. Do this for as long as you like, from a
few seconds to many minutes. The longer you practice this part of the exercise,
the more often you can take breaks and peak yourself.
Adding Connections
When your clitoris is feeling really good, we want you
to add a secondary area to the equation. This can be any other part of your
body; however, we recommend using an area that has erectile tissue, such as
your lips (either facial or vaginal), your anus, or your nipple. Apply a little
lubricant to the particular area. Hopefully, your clitoris will be engorged
enough by now so that it bulges freely away from the body and you no longer
have to pull the hood back.
Simultaneously stroke both your clitoris and the
secondary area with the same kind of stroke. You may want to start by using a
single stroke, simultaneously stroking both areas one time, then stopping for a
few moments, then repeating. Do this a number of times. Then just stroke your
clitoris for one stroke while removing your hand from the secondary area. For
the next few repetitions, again stroke the areas at the same time. Next, stroke
your secondary spot while leaving your hand off your clitoris. Then once again
stroke them both. We are trying to build a connection between your clitoris and
the secondary area. Be patient. Notice if you feel any sensation in the area
that is not
being touched.
After doing the single-stroke technique, try some
continuous strokes, stroking both areas in-sync. Repeat the above instructions,
alternately removing your hand from the secondary area and then the clitoris,
but this time use continuous strokes rather than single strokes. When your hand
is removed from either body part, continue the stroking motion in
the air, slightly above the body.
Again, the more you practice this exercise, the more
you will build a connection between your clitoris and other parts of your body.
This is helpful to women who are not easily orgasmic during intercourse, as
they learn to connect their labia minora and introitus to their clitoris in
such a way that that when the penis is inserted they can feel more sensation
and possibly reach orgasm. It is also fun to connect the lips of your mouth
with your clitoris so that kissing will become that much more sensational. The
lips-to-genital connection works for men as well as women, of course.
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