Cunnilingus
and fellatio can be stimulating and satisfying activities in and of themselves.
What if you were to spend one evening where you could do absolutely anything
you wanted to each other except have intercourse? What would you do? How would
you explore each other's bodies differently? What kinds of thing would you like
to do to your lover? What would you want done to you? What would bring you to
orgasm? Well, here are just few of the existing options…
Pussy Licking
First and foremost,
oral sex should be fun for both the giver and the recipient. Guys, women can usually tell if you're not
into going down on them, so don't do them any favors if you aren't going to
give your all. Effort and enthusiasm are always appreciated. Throw yourself
into it and she'll love you for it. But, while you may get an A for enthusiasm,
skill and technique count toward your average, so study up. Before your mouth
is full, you may want to ask her for some pointers. You can't tell how a woman
wants her pussy licked just by looking at her, and chances are, the tricks that
worked on your last lover will only get you so far with this one.
Like the hand job,
don't rush to rug munching—your tongue techniques will feel so much better for
her when she's turned on. Start by
licking all around her pussy, waking her up and beginning the arousal process.
When you've warmed her up, and she's juicy and swollen, concentrate on her
clitoris. Alternate between different kinds of strokes: up and down, side to
side, circular, and figure eights. Try making big, thick licks from the top of
her clitoral hood all the way down to her perineum, and back up again. Be
creative with your tongue, lips, and mouth. Some women like you to suck on
their clitoris; do it gently at first to see if she's one of them. Explore
different strokes and amounts of pressure.
If
you want to add penetration to the mix, lube up your finger and slip inside her
while your tongue works her clit. Remember to aim for that G-spot; you can even
try to gently "scratch your tongue" from inside her. If your partner
likes more than average pressure on her clit, try using your nose to give her
the fix she craves. All the variety will help keep her entertained and give you
some idea about which of your tricks work best, but at some point you're going
to have to commit to one thing and stick to it to make her come—once again,
rhythm and consistency will get her to ecstasy. Listen to her body. If she
shoves her pussy into you, then chances are she wants more or harder or both.
If she rocks her hips away from you, then slow it down and go lighter.
You
should also try different positions for oral sex, and asking her what's best is
always a good bet. If she's on her back, try slipping a pillow underneath her
butt for an extra lift and to give you a better angle. When she's straddling
your face, she can feel like she's not lying back passively but taking a more
active role in her pleasure. Ultimately, you want to make sure you are in a
position that doesn't have you straining your neck or other muscles. You want
to be able to go the distance, not stop halfway through for a cramp. If you do
get tired and need a break, take over with your hand, and alternate between
hand and mouth. Remember that every woman's pussy is unique, as is the way she
likes it licked. Women enjoy gentle licks, quick flicks of the tongue, clitoris
sucking, noses pressing, and a bevy of other sensations you can create.
One
more thing: every woman appreciates feeling a clean shave rub against their
tender parts, rather than sandpaper stubble. Speaking of shaving, taking a
razor to her pussy can not only be fun and erotic, but will heighten the
sensations of oral sex.
Expert
Muff-Diving Secrets
Dive
in: nothing compares to your wild
abandon; if you're not covered in girl juice, you're not doing it right.
Start
slow: take time with your tongue to cover
every inch of her pussy.
Tease: tease her with your lips and mouth till she's
so excited, she'll grab you by the ears and beg you to dive in.
Add
some suction: don't limit
yourself to licking—suck gently on her clit.
Mix
it up: side to side, up and down, circular, figure eights—see what works best
for her.
Giving Great Head
There's no doubt about
it: most men love a good blow job. Plenty
of women aim to please in this department, but that usually requires patience
and practice. In other words, women do not come out of the womb expert
cocksuckers. Most guys will tell you that the more fun she's having with the
rod, the better the experience for him.
It's
always best to start out with the tease. Hold his cock in your hand, lick the
head, and stimulate it with flicks of your tongue. Don't neglect his testicles,
his perineum, and other sweet spots on his body while you're getting ready to
take him in your mouth. Try opening your mouth and gently tapping his cock
against your tongue; the visual alone will make him weak in the knees. Keep in
mind that he doesn't necessarily have to be rock hard for you to begin a
spirited blow job. Take him in your mouth and feel as he stiffens between your
lips; it will turn both of you on. Begin by generously licking his shaft from
top to bottom, covering all sides. This full-coverage mouth treatment teases
him and lubes the pole, making it slick and much easier to slide right down.
Once you're ready to begin sliding your mouth down his shaft, be mindful of
your teeth (ouch!). Purse your lips into an O that covers them. And while
you're pursing, you can also experiment with adding more pressure with your
lips to increase the friction around his cock.
You
ultimately want to achieve a smooth, single-motion slide that pays close
attention to his sensitive head. Go slow at first, then vary your speed, seeing
what his body responds to. You also want to play with the depth of penetration
in your mouth. Lots of women feel nervous about taking a cock far enough into
their mouths. Use your hand—there's no law against it, and your dig-its will
help you cover more area than you can with just your mouth. Coordinate your
rhythm, so that your mouth and hand work in tandem in one motion to create
continuous friction and motion. Sure, a no-handed blow job is certainly
impressive, but more difficult to pull off without practice; it's a nice
variation, but be very mindful of your teeth. If you wanna pull a "deep
throat," it may be hard to sustain for more than a few good deep strokes,
but throw it in at a few choice moments and you can really make it intense for
him.
Try
as they might, some women simply have trouble giving head because of their gag
reflex. The more nervous or worried you are, the worse the tension in the back
of your throat will be. In order to solve this common problem, try to
concentrate on relaxing the back of your throat. If it's still too much to make
giving head comfortable for you, use your hand and just concentrate your mouth
on the head—it's the most sensitive part anyway. Guys, a word of advice to you:
let her be in control of the action. You can touch her face while she's working
her magic. It's also helpful to hear your comments, but most women are turned
off when you grab their head and push them down there.
Mastering
the flirt of the Blow Job
Get
into it: he likes it best when you're having
the time of your life and demonstrating it by looking at him, talking dirty in
between, or losing yourself in the act.
Relax
your throat: it's mind over
matter, girls. Just take a deep breath and take as much as you feel
comfortable. Use your hand to make up the rest of the length.
Purse
those lips: the pressure of
your lips can create a pleasurable sensation of friction.
Hit the spot: With his cock in your mouth, try pressing on his sensitive perineum or, if he's game, slip a lubed finger in his ass to stimulate his prostate.
Don't Forget the Back Door
Anilingus, more commonly known as "rimming," is stimulation of the anal area with the mouth and tongue—licking, flicking, nibbling, sucking, circling, and tongue-fucking. Many people love the simple pleasure of having their ass licked or licking a partner's ass. Because the anal area is so full of nerve endings, even the tiniest sensations can register big on the turn-on meter. A good way to introduce rimming is to begin by nibbling and licking your partner's butt cheeks. As with other activities, it's important to explore and pleasure the whole area, rather than diving right into the crown jewel. Once you're ready to put your mouth on the anus, start out slowly. Explore every little nook of your lover's asshole—there are a million little folds and crevices to find and lick.
Some people may feel especially anxious about rimming
because of the association between the asshole and defecating; we learn at an
early age that if something is dirty or smells bad, we shouldn't put our mouth
on it. Remember that there are normally no feces in the anus and anal canal.
With proper bowel movements and regular hygiene, the anus is almost as clean as
the vagina, which many of us lick with desire and enthusiasm. However, the
bacteria in our rectum and feces can cause gastrointestinal problems, so use
common sense.
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