Anal Sex
for Him and Her
Most of us
have grown up with some negative ideas about our asses. For example, that your
ass is a private part of the body that shouldn't be openly discussed or
explored. Or that your ass is dirty and unsanitary. Many of us are taught that
we shouldn't think about our asses in a sexual way, let alone enjoy them in a
sexual way. There are also misconceptions about anal pleasure that run rampant
in our culture. Only gay men have anal sex, and if straight men want it, then
they are really gay. Or women have anal sex to please their male partners, but
don't experience any pleasure of their own. Or anal sex is dangerous because it
can cause physical damage to your body and is the simplest way to transmit
disease. The truth is that the ass is one of the most overlooked erogenous
zones in the body, and anal pleasure can be safe, healthy, and satisfying for
men and women.
The
Pleasures of final Sex
Anorectal anatomy is nearly identical in men
and women, and the entire area—the anus, anal canal, and rectum—is extremely
rich in nerve endings and sensitive to stimulation of all kinds, including
penetration. Because of this level of sensitivity, exploring our asses can
bring us incredible sexual pleasure. The one distinction in men and women's
anal anatomy is that men have a prostate gland, which can be reached and
stimulated through the rectum. Men experience pleasure from anal penetration
through prostate stimulation as well as stimulation of the bulb of the penis
and the perineum via the rectum. Although women don't have a prostate, they do
have a G-spot. The G-spot is reached through the front wall of the vagina, but
it can also be indirectly stimulated through anal penetration. Since all that
separates the rectum and the vagina is a thin membrane, if you angle a finger,
toy, or penis toward the front wall of the vagina, women still may experience
G-spot stimulation.
In addition
to the bundle of physical pleasure that anal stimulation brings, there are
complex emotional and psychological issues that contribute to the erotic
experience. For some people, the idea that anal sex is naughty, forbidden, and
taboo is very exciting, and adds to their enjoyment of it. For others, the
great amount of trust one must have in a partner heightens the physical
pleasure; allowing your partner to penetrate you in this special place says,
"Here is a delicate part of my body, and I trust you not to hurt me but to
make me feel very good." That power exchange can be very intense for
lovers. Anal sex is often represented in popular culture as violent and
degrading; however, in reality, it can be extremely intimate, connecting, and
spiritual.
Desire,
Communication, and Relaxation
One of the
most important ingredients for safe and pleasurable anal sex is desire. If you
are not absolutely sure that you want your ass stimulated or penetrated, you
cannot betray your body. Your ass never lies, and if you have any fears or
misgivings, you will feel them on a physical level: your sphincter muscles will
tighten and you won't be able to enjoy stimulation or have comfortable
penetration. It's important to talk with your partner before the experience, so
you can vocalize and resolve any issues or apprehension you may have. Once you
clear the air, and agree that the receiving partner can stop any activities at
any point, you'll both feel reassured and relaxed as you discover this newfound
pleasure.
In addition
to desire, communication is a critical part of pleasurable anal sex. No matter
how well you know your partner, you cannot look into someone's eyes and
understand exactly how she or he wants to be fucked in the ass. You need to
ask, and your lover needs to tell you. Aback-and-forth dialogue can really help
both partners relax and not be anxious about what may happen next. The partner
on the receiving end of anal penetration should absolutely be the one in
control. You need to be the one to tell your partner what you want, and be
specific: how slow or fast do you want the pace to be? Do you want penetration
to be deep or not so deep? When you are ready to move on to more fingers, a
bigger toy, his penis, or just something different, let your lover know.
Beyond
communication, it does take a great deal of trust to have your ass penetrated.
You are entrusting your partner with a very sensitive, delicate place in your
body. If the penetrating partner does not know what he or she is doing, you can
potentially be hurt. Anal sex can be very charged, intense, and emotional.
That's why it's important for partners to be able to openly discuss their
feelings, feel safe, and trust one another. The person receiving anal
penetration can feel especially vulnerable, both physically and emotionally,
and the partner giving anal pleasure must respect the receiver's wishes, needs,
and limits. The penetrative partner may be afraid of hurting his or her lover.
Again, communication and ground rules can help alleviate tension and reassure
both people that it will be a safe and pleasurable experience.
Relaxation
is critical to great anal sex. Living in a very stressful world, we hold stress
in different places in our bodies, and the ass is one of the most popular
places to keep stress in—that's where the expression "tight ass"
comes from.
Whatever it takes for you to relax—whether it's deep breathing,
candles and incense, meditation, or visualization—letting go of tension in the
body and putting the day's activities out of your mind will help you physically
and mentally prepare for anal sex. Some people also like to have an orgasm
before they begin exploring anal pleasure; it's another great way to get
aroused, release tension, and relax the body.
Everyone
must go at their own pace for anal sex to be pleasurable, and when both
partners are patient, it's much easier for everyone to relax (especially the
receptive partner). Anal sex is also a gradual process of exploration. We progress
to anal penetration. Anal sex is not a choice activity for a night when one or
both of you just want a quickie, or someone has somewhere to be. If you are
anxious or stressed out about anal sex, sex in general, or the presentation
you're giving tomorrow at work, it's probably not the best time to experience
anal eroticism.
The Mess
Factor
The number
one question I am most often asked about anal sex is, "Won't it be
messy?" Most people are anxious or reluctant to explore their partner's
ass for fear that they will, well, step in shit. You shall recall, however,
that beyond the rectum is the colon, and you cannot reach the colon without
something much longer than a penis or a dildo. The colon has no sexual
function, but it is important to acknowledge how it relates to anal
penetration. Feces are stored in the colon and move into the rectum when you're
ready to have a bowel movement. The rectum is not a storage facility. This is
the case for people with normal diets, good bowel habits, and no
gastrointestinal problems. So, if you feel like you have to go to the bathroom,
and you do, there will not be very much fecal matter in the rectum. On the
other hand, if you feel like you have to go to the bath-room, but you do not
and instead have your ass penetrated, well, there is likely to be a mess. The
moral of this story is listen to your body and go to the bathroom when you feel
the urge. It is a good idea to empty your bowels before you have anal sex.
Some people
like to have an anal douche or enema before anal sex. Know that you do not have
to have an enema in order to have relatively clean anal sex. Having a bowel
movement and a warm soapy shower to clean the external area should do just
fine. If you do want to have an enema, there are several different kinds. You
can buy a Fleet enema or a plastic bulb syringe at the drugstore. If you use a
Fleet, empty the plastic bottle first—it contains a liquid laxative you don't
need to use—and refill it with plain warm water. Always follow the instructions
on the box. If you are going to use an enema, you should have one at least
three hours before you have anal sex. Do not overdo it on enemas. I don't want
to see any of you at an Enema Addicts Anonymous meeting. Enemas rinse all the
bacteria out of the bowels, the good, the bad, and the ugly (including some
that's beneficial), as well as the thin layer of mucus that helps protect the
delicate lining of the rectum. Enemas can wear your body out, so you don't want
to have too many. An enema may feel strange or slightly uncomfortable, but it
should never be painful. If you have cramps, the temperature of the water is
probably too cold. If you have other pain, stop at once.
Preparation
and Techniques
Lubricant
can greatly enhance all kinds of sexual experiences. When it comes to anal
penetration, lube is not a luxury, it is an absolute necessity. Unlike the
vagina, the rectum is not self-lubricating. If it feels lubricated to you,
that's probably the mucus that lines the rectum and some sweat, but it's not
enough to have pleasurable penetration. Spit will not do the trick either—you
need a store-bought lubricant. I find that thick, water-based lubes that are
the consistency of hair gel work the best for anal penetration. Lubes like ID,
Wet, Maximus, Foreplay Lube DeLuxe Gel or Cream, Probe Thick and Rich, and
Slippery Stuff Gel, among others, stay wet longer than their liquidy
counterparts and also provide some cushioning for the delicate rectum. (There's
no such thing as too much lube for anal play, and it may get a little messy.
Moistened unscented baby wipes are a great way to clean up. They can also help
prevent lube from the ass dripping into the vagina, which may cause an
infection; one swipe of the wipe, and you're all clean!)
The tissue
of the anal canal and rectum is quite delicate and much less resilient than the
tissue of the vagina. The delicacy of the rectal tissue is a blessing and a
curse: a blessing because it makes the area incredibly sensitive to all kinds
of touch, but a curse because we do need to take extra care during penetration.
Without proper warm-up and preparation, you can tear the lining of the rectum
and cause irritation, discomfort, or pain. But with a few precautions, you can
prevent any tearing or pain and focus on pleasure instead.
When done
correctly, anal sex will not cause permanent damage to your rectum. As I say in
my video: let's put this myth to rest once and for all. If you have a lot of
anal sex, you are not going to end up in adult diapers. In others words,
frequent backdoor banging—when done properly with care and lots of lube—will
not lead to enlarged and/or loose sphincter muscles or a loss of bowel control.
In fact, having a lot of anal sex may do just the opposite: you may find that
you actually have better bowel control than you did before. You see, in order
to take something inside your anal canal and rectum, you have to learn how to
relax your sphincter muscles. The more you practice controlling these muscles,
the more you are exercising and toning them (just like any other muscle). You
are not stretching out or loosening the sphincter muscles, you are simply
relaxing them to allow penetration.
Plenty of
foreplay and warm-up go a long, long way toward achieving satisfying anal
penetration. Getting your partner revved up in whatever ways really do the
trick is half the battle; once someone is aroused, their genitals are engorged,
their muscles are relaxed, and they are more receptive to penetration. Even if
the goal of the evening is anal sex, you don't have to dive right in. Don't
neglect other sweet spots on his or her body.
I recommend
that you begin exploration of the ass with a tool that's small, gentle, and
connected to a brain: your finger! I like to think of my finger as "my man
on the inside." He's got his hard hat with the big light on top and is
gonna tell me what's going on in there. To penetrate someone with a toy, it's a
little like flying blind—you don't know what the person feels like on the
inside, and you don't know how the body responds to what you're doing since the
toy has no sensors. Your fingers, on the other hand, can give you a firm grasp
of this new and mysterious territory, telling you where everything is (remember
that all-important curve of the rectum), how the rectum feels, and what it
responds to. In order to make sure your fingers are going to feel good rather
than wreak havoc inside, you need to have a good manicure—clean, short,
well-filed nails. If you aren't con-tent with your nails, then slip into a
latex glove. Gloves make your fingers smooth and protect the ass from rough
edges, torn cuticles, and other potential dangers. Ladies, if you're going to
let your fingers do the walking and you've got a lovely manicure of real or
fake nails, don't despair. Put cotton balls into the tips of the fingers of a
latex glove. You lose a little bit of sensitivity, but you can reassure
yourself that you won't tear through a glove or irritate your partner's ass.
When you
are ready to proceed, rather than insert your well-lubricated finger straight
inside as if pointing to something, touch the pad of your fingertip to the
anus. This feels soft and nonthreatening and will likely cause the anal opening
and sphincter muscles to relax and allow something inside. Slide your finger
inside only up to the first knuckle and just stay there, letting the butt get
used to having something inside it. Remember that everything registers bigger
and bolder than it really is when it is inside the butt, so never go too far
too fast. Don't rush it.
The more
time you are willing to devote to a gradual, gentle exploration, the more your
ass will benefit in the end. It's all about working your way up. One of the
reasons that I made my video, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, is that
I believe people learn things from adult films. Too often in videos the man
shoves his huge penis right into a woman's ass without lube or warm-up. The
truth is that even the most experienced anal receivers and the professionals
need to work up to a penis. The problem with most anal porn is that all the
lube and warm-up with fingers and toys either happens off camera or ends up on
the editor's cutting-room floor. No one can go from zero to sixty in five
seconds; it's just not possible! Too many couples try to rush anal penetration,
and it ends up being painful for the receptive partner. Of course, after the
first negative try, no one really wants to experience it again.
Anal
penetration does not have to hurt—not even a little. If it hurts, you aren't
doing it right: either the person isn't warmed up or relaxed enough or you're
not using enough lube. Pain is your body's way of telling you that whatever is
happening isn't working. Honor and respect your body, and if you feel pain,
stop what you are doing. There is a fine line between pain and dis-comfort, and
everyone's line is different. Anal penetration may feel strange at first. Your
ass is used to expelling things out of it, not taking objects into it. So when
first-timers are penetrated, they sometimes feel as if they need to have a
bowel movement. I suggest you go to the bathroom and see what happens. Most
likely, you really don't have to go, because hopefully you had a bowel movement
before sex. It's just your body attempting to reorient itself toward this new
feeling. The more you experience anal penetration, the more this urge to
"go" will subside.
Anal Sex
Toys
In addition
to fingers and penises, there are a variety of sex toys you can also use on
your ass.
Whatever
kind of toy you select, it must have one important feature: a flared base.
Perhaps you have heard rumors about people "losing" objects in their
rectums and rushing to the emergency room. Or maybe you've seen one of several
Web sites which document X-rays of different items people have put in their
rectums. While part of this is pure urban legend, the truth is you can get
something lost in your ass if you aren't careful. Once you are aroused, your
pelvic muscles contract, and this could cause your ass to "suck"
something all the way inside it. The best way to prevent your own trip to the
ER is to use a toy with a flared base, since the base will prevent it from
going beyond the rectum and into the colon.
As their
name tells you, butt plugs are made expressly for anal pleasure. The
traditional shape of a butt plug looks like a teardrop with a thicker bottom or
a skinny pear shape. There are variations on the shape, including a lopsided
diamond shape and a bulbous head with a long neck. Above the wide flared base,
the plug's neck has the smallest circumference, designed to allow the sphincter
muscles to close around it. Butt plugs may be smooth or textured with ridges, ripples,
rings, or bumps. Butt plugs are usually made of latex rubber or silicone; there
are also clear acrylic (similar to Lucite), glass, wood, ceramic, and even
metal plugs, but they are for more experienced anal players. Butt plugs come in
a whole bunch of sizes—remember that it is always best to start small and work
your way up.
If you like
the feeling of something just being in your ass, and appreciate the fullness
and pressure without necessarily moving in and out, than you would probably
love a butt plug. Butt plugs are meant to go in and stay in. Once you slowly
slide a well-lubed plug inside the ass, you can then move on to something
else—clitoral stimulation, a blow job, vaginal penetration, what-ever you'd
like—and the butt plug will continue to stimulate without a lot of work on your
part.
If you have
a butt plug in, you may find that when you get really aroused or during orgasm,
the plug inadvertently slips (or even shoots!) right out of your ass. While
this may be surprising or embarrassing, don't be alarmed, it's pretty common. Remember
that during arousal, your genital muscles contract, and those contractions may
actually push a plug out of your ass. This doesn't necessarily mean that the
plug is too small and you need to run out and upgrade—it's just a signal that
you are very turned on!
Butt plugs
are also a great way to warm up the ass for bigger things to come. Putting in a
plug and leaving it in for awhile lets the ass get used to having something
inside it. The ass opens up and relaxes around it, and when you take it out,
you're ready to move on to something more.
That
something more may be a dildo. As you may know, dildos come in all shapes,
sizes, colors, styles, and materials. If you like your anal penetration to
include in-and-out-style fucking, then a dildo is the right tool for you. Any
dildo with a flared base is appropriate for anal penetration. If the dildo is
curved, make sure the curve is always going in the direction of the front of
the receptive partner's body to insure stimulation of the prostate or the
G-spot.
Some butt
plugs and dildos are also vibrators. Vibration not only stimulates the genitals
and feels really good, but it also relaxes the body. That's why so many
vibrators are sold as massagers. Some people find that the added feature of
vibration helps them to relax the sphincter muscles and makes anal penetration
easier and more pleasurable.
There is
one exception to the flared base rule: anal beads. Made of either hard plastic
or rubber, there are usually about five beads (which can range from the size of
marbles to the size of super balls) on a string with a large ring on the end of
it. There are also even larger ones—I've seen them the size of ten-nis
balls—but they are unrealistic and potentially unsafe; stick with a reasonable
size. For some people, the moment when the sphincter muscles relax and let
something inside the ass is the most arousing; with anal beads, you can
experience that moment five times.
Lubricate
the beads, and insert them slowly and gently, one at a time. Once the beads are
in, you'll be able to feel them as you move on to manual stimulation, oral sex,
or vaginal inter-course. Some people like to pull out the entire string of
beads right before they orgasm—it sends them over the edge. Others pull them
out during or immediately following orgasm. Just don't pull them too fast or
you can tear that delicate tissue.
A few words
of caution if you're interested in anal beads. Many anal beads are inexpensive
and poorly made. The hard plastic kind may have sharp edges at the seam of the
ball that can irritate or tear the tissue of the anal canal and rectum; some
people also complain that the knots in the string feel uncomfortable. These
type of beads are impossible to completely dis-infect, so never share them with
a partner; each person should have his or her own. If you love beads, but have
concerns about the edges or cleaning them, there are a few solutions. Vixen
Creations is the only toy manufacturer that makes an entire string of anal
beads dipped in silicone. Silicone means they are a snap to clean, and the
beads are super-smooth. Other companies have dildos that take off on the idea
of anal beads, featuring several round rubber orbs linked with rubber—the same
great feeling with no sharp edges or hard-to-clean string.
If the
receptive partner is a woman, it's important that nothing go directly from her
ass into her vagina; that's a great way to get a vaginal infection. Whether
it's a finger, penis, or sex toy, if it has been in her ass, make sure you
either wash it thoroughly with hot water and antibacterial soap or put a new
latex glove or condom on it.
Positions
for Anal Sex
In this
section, I may focus a little more on men penetrating women in the ass, but
these positions will work no matter who's pitching and who's catching. Guys, you
are not off the hook. You get your chance to take it in just a few pages.
There
aren't any secret positions for anal penetration that you probably don't
already know about. In other words, any position you've been in for vaginal
penetration is worth a try for anal penetration. Since everyone has individual
needs, tastes, and desires, it is important to experiment with all kinds of positions
to discover what works best for you and your partner. Different positions offer
different features, from endurance and comfort to a certain angle of
penetration or the feasibility of deep thrusting. When considering which may
work best for you, think about how comfortable both partners will be in a
position, and if both of you can stay where you are for awhile. What is the
best position for anal sex? I get asked that question almost every-day, and the
answer is: the one that works best for you.
I am
partial to the doggie-style position for beginners. This position, with the
receptive partner on hands and knees—or slightly modified with head down and
ass in the air—and the insertive partner behind offers some important pluses.
For one, the penetrator can clearly see where he's headed, which is important
especially when you are negotiating between two openings that are very close together.
When the receptive partner's head is down, the body creates a perfect angle of penetration
to hit the G-spot. In this position, you can reach around and rub her clit or
she can do it herself.
Doing it
doggie-style also does plenty for the more experienced, and gives both of you
lots of pelvic movement for both partners. The receptive partner can move back
on a penis from this angle. She can also be in control of the action if he does
less of the movement, and lets the receiver come to him. He can do a lot of
deep, hard, or fast thrusting, and doggie-style can be anything but a gentle
first-time fuck.
Yet another
variation on this position has the receptive partner on her stomach with either
her knees bent or her legs straight. Although this one may seem awkward on
first try, it just takes a little practice. This too is a good position for
medium or deep penetration because the rectum is in an optimum position for
pretty smooth entry (as long as you don't forget that important curve!).
Missionary
position finds the receptive partner on her back and the insertive partner on
top. Because both partners face each other, this makes it easier to
communicate, especially non-verbally, plus you can attend to other parts of
your partner's body—suck on her nipples, kiss her neck, rub her clit. Many
people in the receptive position like missionary-style anal penetration because
lying on their back is either more comfortable or allows them a sense of
surrendering to their partner.
The
receptive partner may find that a pillow under her butt makes for easier
penetration, and she can bend her knees or bring her legs either to her chest
or rest them on her partner's shoulders. Although the latter position may
create a better angle for entry, it is often one that even the most flexible
among us find hard to sustain. If your partner cannot provide clitoral
stimulation, you can do it yourself with your hand or a vibrator.
If the receptive
partner wants to control the angle and depth of penetration, then she should
try being on top. Straddling the insertive partner, she can sit straight up, or
lean forward or backward. Again, facing each other means you can talk as well
as stroke, rub, pinch, and stimulate other parts of each other's bodies; this
position is also great for clitoral stimulation. Receptive partners can really
take the lead in this position and be in charge of the depth, the amount of
movement, and the rhythm.
Insertive
partners who are inexperienced, nervous about how to penetrate their partners
anally, or fearful of hurting their partners may find this position most
relaxing because the receiver can do much of the decision making and the work.
The partners on the bottom often report liking this position best because they
get a great view of their partner and can watch her as she receives pleasure.
Spooning is
a position in which both partners are on their sides, either facing each other
or the same direction. This position is comfortable, flexible, easy to
maneuver, and it gives both partners good control over the angle and depth of
penetration; it's an ideal position for partners who are of very different
heights or sizes. Some people find that lying side by side gives them greater
access to their partner's vagina, clitoris, penis, balls, and to all parts of
each other's bodies for exploration and stimulation. You don't get the depth of
penetration this way as with other positions; however, spooning is good for a
long, slow anal fucking session, where no one's in a rush to get somewhere. But
don't get me wrong, you can still have ecstatic orgasms this way, especially
because you can be stimulating lots of other parts while you're doing your
partner's ass.
These are a
few of the most common positions, but by no means all the possible ones. There
are plenty more for you to explore and try out. Some people like to reverse the
receptive-partner-on-top position and face the same direction rather than each
other. Couples who are similar in size may find they can do it standing up or
with one person bent over a bed or table. Think of each new position as an
opportunity to explore different depths, speeds, rhythms, and dynamics; there's
lots of erotic territory you'll find simply by changing your point of view.
Traditional
Butt Fucking
I want to
stress that anal pleasure comes in many different forms, from licking and
external stimulation, to penetration with fingers or toys. Anal sex should not
be equated only with his cock in your ass. However, that said, if his cock in
your ass is the desired goal, here are some tips to get you on the right track.
(Pay attention, girls, you can change the pronouns and use many of these
techniques on his ass, too.)
Start with
plenty of foreplay—work her clit, lick her pussy, play with her breasts, and
get her as excited as possible. The more turned on she is, the more engorged
her genitals will be. When everything is wet and swollen, it's also relaxed and
more receptive to penetration. Play with her butt cheeks—squeeze them, stroke
them, maybe even spank them a little. Spread some lube on her anal opening and
the perineum; stimulate the external area to get her focused on feeling pleasure
in her ass. When you begin to penetrate her with one well-lubed finger, go
deliciously slowly. Work her clit with your mouth or your finger or a vibrator
while your finger is in her ass, or guide her hand between her legs for
self-stimulation. Remember, clitoral stimulation will not only help relax her,
it will also make anal penetration feel better. Some women tighten their
sphincter muscles when their clits are being stimulated, having the reverse
effect—she'll let you know if the stimulation is helping her open up or if
she's clamping around your finger instead.
When you
first get inside her, just past the sphincter muscles, just go up to the first
knuckle and stay there. Let her ass get used to the feeling of your finger. One
trick I like to use is where I gently press in what I call the
"North-South-East-West" motion: up, down, and side to side with a
subtle amount of movement and pressure. As you proceed farther inside, remember
to angle toward the G-spot; you can even try rubbing the frontwall of the
rectum for more G-spot stimulation. Let her be the one to tell you when she
wants more fingers. Slowly withdraw your finger, add more lube, then slide two
fingers inside gently. Again, begin with the pad-of-the-finger trick, and let
her get used to the sensation of more fingers in her ass.
Once she's
more relaxed and used to the feeling, you can start to move in and out. Remember
that the ass is more sensitive, so proceed more gently than you may be used to
when finger-fucking her vagina. On the road toward putting your cock in her
ass, you can proceed a few different ways:
• Continue
with finger penetration, adding fingers two, three, and maybe four; or
• After two
fingers, switch to a slim dildo which you move in and out of her ass; or
• Slide a
well-lubricated butt plug slowly inside her ass. Once it is all the way in,
play with it a little bit by tapping on the end of it or moving it slightly.
Then, give her some clitoral stimulation or maybe vaginal penetration. Perhaps
she can suck your dick or give you a hand job. After the butt plug has been in
for awhile, you can care fully slide it out. Her ass should be relaxed and
ready for you.
After the
warm-up period, lubricate your penis and re-lube her anus. Place your cock at
her anal opening and hold it with your hand to help you guide it. Again, you
have a few options:
• Have her
move her body toward your cock (forward or backward depending on your
positions), while you guide it inside.
• Rub your
cock against her opening. This external stimulation should relax the anus. As
the sphincter muscles contract, the opening appears to "wink" at you.
As it winks open, take the opportunity to slide in.
Press your
cock against her opening and gently push against it (she may want to either
relax or bear down in order to let you inside).
• Penetrate
her ass with your finger, withdraw it, and while her anus is open, gently
insert your penis.
• Have her
stimulate her clit as you penetrate her. This will relax and arouse her, making
penetration easier.
• Deep
breathing will help her relax and concentrate on opening her ass to you as well
as circulating blood to her genitals. (Taking shallow breaths tightens the muscles
and inhibits the engorgement process.)
• Girls, if
he's having trouble hitting his intended target (hey, those two holes are close
together and it's slippery with all that lube), wrap your fingers around the
head of his cock and help to guide him inside your ass.
When you
first get inside her ass, don't go too deep. Again, you want to give her ass an
opportunity to get used to your penis. Keep your movements slow, gentle, and
subtle at first. When she's ready, you can venture farther inside and start
some slow thrusting. She should tell you if she wants you to go deeper or
faster or both. Then, it's simply a matter of exploring what feels good for
both of you.
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