Has there recently been a new addition to your family? If
so, congratulations! There is nothing
more exciting or rewarding than becoming a parent.
As
rewarding and as exciting as it can be to be a new parent, you may want to
start returning to your normal routines.
Depending on your relationship with
your wife, that routine may have involved daily or regular sex. Unfortunately,
many men are disappointed to learn that their sex life is not going to be what
it was like before, at least right away.
If this is
your first child, you may not be familiar with how sex after a baby works for
women. If that is the case, please continue reading on, as a few helpful tips
are outlined below for your convenience.
Most importantly it is important to give your wife space and
time. She may not be ready for
sex yet, emotionally or physically. In fact, did you know that women need time
to heal after having a baby? Many doctors recommend waiting at least a month
before having sex after giving birth. With that said, your wife may be
different. She may be ready to
resume intimacy sooner or later than the average, recommended time frame.
In keeping
with giving your wife time, it is important to not have high expectations right
away. These expectations should also include more than just intimacy. As
previously stated, having a baby is exciting and rewarding, but it can also be
very overwhelming for new parents, especially moms. Late night feeding sessions
and fussy babies may prevent your wife from wanting to initiate sex, as well as
getting many of her daily tasks completed, like cleaning the house or having
dinner prepared on time.
Speaking of
which, if you want to improve the intimacy in your relationship and not just in
the bedroom, be sure to help your wife out. This may involve taking a late
night feeding session with your new baby, doing the dishes, cooking dinner, and
so forth. Many new moms feel so helpless and overwhelmed immediately following
the birth of a baby. Do not let your wife feel this way. The kind gestures of
helping on your part may improve your relationship and in more ways than one.
It is also
important to not push your wife to have sexual relations with you when she is uncomfortable
or unready to do so. As previously stated, it does take women time to heal after
having a baby. It is also
important to take other factors into consideration. Is your baby sleeping in
your room? If so, your wife may not feel comfortable being intimate then. Your wife may also not be ready to
hire a baby sitter or even allow a trusted relative to care for your child.
This means that a romantic weekend or night away is often out of the question. Most
new moms needs months or even longer before they are ready for this big step.
Since there
is a good chance that your wife may not be ready to resume intimacy in your relationship,
it is important to be patient. Instead of dwelling on not having sex,
work for it.
Use the time to “wow,” your wife all over again. Do so with romantic gestures, such
as preparing a nice dinner at home, flowers, and love notes.
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