Monday, October 15, 2012

69 and Why do we all love this magical number?


69 can be done male on top, female on top, or side by side. The latter two are easier, though it's more restful with both partners lying down. Some women love being licked on all fours, so if female-on-top 69 drives her wild, take the hint and find ways to eat her in this position. All she has to do is slide her knees out and you'll find your mouth in her pussy. I happen to enjoy male on top, but for women who haven't learned to deep-throat, this is a sure choking position. If your woman wants to deep-throat you while you're eating her, male-on-top is THE 69 position. When her head is tilted back, especially if you're taller than she is, you can really slide your cock all the way down her throat. But don't forget what you're supposed to be doing!

Each of you must realize that you can't let up on what you're supposed to be doing just because what the other is doing feels so good. Instead of letting up, let the pleasure you're feeling enhance what you're doing. It's sort of like a payback, you're making me feel so good I'm going to make you feel even better. Once you've mastered throat fucking, man on top 69 can really get interesting, he can eat you and fuck you at the same time. The only problem comes when he can't make up his mind whether to concentrate on fucking or sucking. Don't worry about it, just lie there and enjoy it, let him sort it out, he'll get around to finishing both jobs.

The element that must be in place for good 69 is simple: Both of you must be experienced! Each of you must realize that when what the other is doing feels so good, you can't just let up on what you're supposed to be doing to enjoy it. Instead of letting up, let the pleasure you're feeling enhance what you're doing, share each other's emotions. That's why, when my lover and I engage in oral sex, we like 69 so much, we can build each other's pleasure to such wonderful simultaneous climaxes.

As I said earlier, some women feel lonely when you're eating their pussy, they want something to hug. Well, you can give them something. Eat her in a side by side 69 position and let her hug your cock, with her mouth. She can put her arms around your hips, press her breasts against you and hold your cock in her mouth while you put her on cloud nine, just make sure you tell her not to distract you too much.

If you have a man who is not in the least interested in giving head and only likes to receive it, then to attempt sixty-nine is to ask for unhappiness in your relationship. You can tell if he really likes to eat your pussy. See if you can find a time when the two of you are in bed naked on your backs and he doesn't have a hard-on. Quietly roll over onto your knees, straddle his head and slowly rub your muff over his face, letting your moist lips slide over his nose and mouth. Look back at his cock. If it springs up toward the ceiling and you find his tongue in your cunt, then he likes it.

UUUUNNNNGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!! (or, I'M COMING!!!)

Okay, she's grabbed your head and pressed your face into her muff; she's practically suffocating you, she's screaming and bucking up in the air; you feel her cunt contracting wildly - how long should you keep it up?? The answer is simple, until she makes you stop. Some women may stop you after five seconds from the start of their climax, others may be able to roll right into another orgasm if you'd just keep going. Do come up for air, but remember, her excitement does not drop off as sharply as yours does. Play it safe by continuing the stimulation.

If you're sucking her clit and finger-fucking her at the same time, you're giving her far more stimulation than you would be giving her with your cock alone. So you can count on it that she's getting high on this. If there's any doubt, check her out for symptoms. Each woman is unique. You may have one whose nipples get hard when she's excited or only when she's having an orgasm. Your girl might flush red or begin to tremble. Get to know her symptoms and you'll be a more sensitive lover. When she starts to have an orgasm, for heaven's sakes, don't let go of that clit. Hang in there for the duration. When she starts to come down from the first orgasm, press your tongue along the underside of the clit, leaving your lips covering the top. Move your tongue in and out of her cunt. If your fingers are inside, move them a little, gently though, things are extremely sensitive just now. If you play your cards right, you'll get some multiple orgasms this way, a woman stays excited for an hour after she's had an orgasm.

How many times does she need to cum? Some women are very content to have one orgasm. A whole lot of women would really like to cum again, but need about five minutes to recoup. Many women are so sensitive right after they cum that they may push your head violently away. This doesn't necessarily mean they've had enough, only that you need to stop for a few minutes. In fact most women, given a short rest between, are capable of cumming again and again. A smaller percentage of women are able to cum repeatedly with continued stimulation. This is the much-touted multiple-orgasm that's experienced by a minority of women. I know this makes it difficult to know when enough is enough, but there's a simple answer: ask her.

After you've made her cum, don't leave her alone just yet. A man can get off and go to sleep in the same breath and feel no remorse, no sense of loss. But a woman, by nature, requires some sensitivity from her lover in those first few moments after sex. Don't wipe yourself off, walk around the bed to get to the other side, go to the bathroom. Maintain close physical contact, work your way from where you were when she climaxed to holding her in your arms. Lie close together, arms and legs intertwined, wet bodies pressed close together, let your cock lie in the folds of her pussy. Talk to her, stroke her body, caress her breasts. Keep making love to her quietly until she's come all the way down, or, if nature allows, builds back up. If you've just finished my favorite 69, do some serious kissing. Taste your own juices as her tongue brings traces of it into your mouth while your tongue passes her woman's essence to her taste buds. Taste the delicious mixtures as your tongues dart back and forth, mixing the sweet cunt and cock sex juices in your mouths. Who knows what new pleasures this could lead to as your passions begin to rebuild. 

GODI'MSOEXCITEDITFEELSGREATBUTIJUSTCAN'TCUM 

It happens to all of us sometimes - distraction, embarrassment, anxiety, or just an inability to "let go." What do you do about it? The first question is, can she easily bring herself to a climax in the privacy of her own home. If the answer is no - then she needs to do some homework. There are two books on the subject that I know of: "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by Lonnie Barbach, and "Sex for One: The Joy of Self-loving" by Betty Dodson; pick up one. Then tell her to read it, study it, and practice, practice, practice! Now if your partner is orgasmic only when alone - ask her point blank: "Is there something different I can do?" Many women are shy about criticizing their lovers, but if asked outright will surprise you with a very specific answer. It may be a simple matter of mechanics, like a little to right, please, or not so rough, or more pressure and faster. 

Ah . . . perfect.

But suppose everything is wonderful. She says you're doing everything right but she just can't cum. There are two probable causes: self-consciousness and/or self-loathing. For women who can't help watching themselves, the best approach is to eliminate anything that focuses her attention on what the two of you're doing. This is a "be here now" kind of thing - definitely not an introspective activity. Get that mirror off the ceiling. Dim the lights or turn them off completely. Put on some soft music. Share a glass of port. (I said A glass - getting drunk will definitely not help). Have her lie on her back, or propped up comfortably with some pillows. This isn't the time for her to sit on your face, or the edge of the bed, or stand up against a wall. Arrange a time when you can devote a long period to eating her pussy, and then just keep it up. Forget everything I said about asking her questions - just close your eyes and get into it. I know this can be a difficult and exhausting exercise, but she'll be extravagantly thankful for your efforts. It gets easier each time. If all else fails, get accustomed to masturbating together. Gradually begin to add your stimulation to her own, right before she's about to cum anyway. Over time, you can take over completely.

For women who feel that their pussys are dirty or distasteful, all of the above methods may be helpful, but the underlying issue must also be addressed. I am amazed at how many women are ambivalent about their own genitals. They don't love "that part" of their body, and they can't believe that you would either. Yes, it's important to be clean. But clean means a daily shower which includes washing their pussy. It doesn't mean vainly attempting to remove every trace of smell or taste. The natural taste and fragrance of the fresh secretions from a healthy woman's pussy are beautiful and erotic. Hopefully you agree (and if not, try hard to cultivate this attitude). When she learns to love her pussy, she'll be infinitely more comfortable with your loving it too.

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